Why women cheat?

Picture this…a man who loves a woman unconditionally and wholeheartedly (wholeheartedly is a favourite word of mine), gives her everything he can within his means to make her happy. He’s always there for her, gives her all the support she needs, looks after her in her time of sickness. See’s her everyday he can. Always gives her cards and presents. Takes her out to fancy restaurants…all this he does to show her how much SHE MEANS TO HIM!! And whaddaya know, she cheats on him… (psychologically something must be wrong with her you think…hmmm…)

In the old days..(not ancient times!) a woman cheating on her partner was unheard of but in modern times the number of women who is cheating is growing like a slow virus! The only difference in men and women cheating is that men often cheat for physical reasons while women often have emotional reasons for cheating on their partner which includes loneliness, revenge, boredom and self esteem. These factors may be inexcusable but they do exist in the minds of a cheating woman..hahaha…take note all women out there!! More and more women are becoming guilty of cheating on their partners and it is often emotional reasons rather than lust that drive them to these affairs.

Women can be happy with their partner but still have secret affairs..WHY? It’s the thrill of the game of not being caught to see if she still has what it takes to get a man. Crazy, yes! God made us complicated yet gentle creatures and that is why men are still trying to understand us. We say one thing but mean another. Yet we say that we mean what we say and yet it may or not be that thing we were saying in the first place. Get it?? Something like this ‘honey am I fat? The lady expects the partner to give her an honest answer but also something she wants to hear...so..how are men not supposed to be confused by this??

Okay, back to the topic of cheating. Factors of cheating have been researched by the experts as:
1. Loneliness
2. Revenge
3. Boredom
4. Lack of self-esteem

Loneliness is one of the primary reasons that women seek out affairs and cheat on their partner. How can a women in a relationship be lonely one may ask as it sounds contradictory but it is often a relationship is not emotionally fulfilling. Women who are in relationships may feel as lonely if not more so than women who are single. When a woman does not receive the attention she feels she deserves in a relationship, she may be tempted to seek that attention elsewhere and later be involved in an affair. A partner who is overly involved with his work or a hobby may not make time or unable to find the time to spend with his partner and this often results in the women feeling as if they are all alone. To an extent that she can feel lonely even with his presence, thus driving her to cheat.

Revenge has also become and increasing factor in why women cheat. The modern woman is no longer willing to sit back and accept the fact that their partner may cheat on them. ‘Remember the term ‘Kill or be killed’ well this is somewhat the same. If a woman is sure or even suspicious that their partner is cheating on them, they may be driven to engage in an affair of their own as an act of revenge. The theory of, “An eye for an eye,” has unfortunately trickled down into the realm of romantic relationships where many women see a cheating partner as a justification to have an affair of their own. They believe that they have justified in having an affair if they catch their partner cheating on them. Cheat first so that when the partner cheats then they can say this is why I cheated on you because I knew you’d cheat. It does sound abit twisted! Cuckoo even…but that’s the truth…

Boredom may also be a factor into why women cheat. Some couples when they have been together for a long time, the relationship has somewhat turned into something of a routine. Everything is predictable, no more sparks, no more magic, no more excitement like when they first existed as a couple where love was in the air and you can smell the roses! Rather than trying to bring excitement into their current relationship (which they was supposed to do!! ) they may pursue affairs in the hopes of achieving the excitement they used to feel. An affair may bring about a temporary solution of making the woman feel excited about love again but it may ultimately destroy both their current relationship as well as their cheating relationship. The cheating relationship may want a real relationship but the current relationship after knowing she cheated may want to end it although there are partners who love their lady so much that they are willing to give her another chance. An affair is exciting not only because it involves a relationship with a new person but also because it involves sneaking around and ultimately getting away with doing something wrong. Risk is always exciting as women are trying to beat the odds of getting caught as they are willing to ‘RISK’ losing their relationship over their affair. Women want to feel love and also excitement, the way they thought they can get it is by engaging in an affair. (Be the judge of this!)

Another reason why women cheat is a lack of self esteem. Women want to feel pampered, loved and admired and when they feel that they are not getting that from their partner they may be tempted to cheat to affirm that they are still attractive and desirable. When a relationship meets a stagnant point where both partners have become too comfortable with each other and no efforts are being made to spice up the relationship to a point where they feel desirable, many women begin to feel insecure. This insecurity leads women to seek affirmation of their desirability outside of the relationship in the form of an affair. When found desirable by another it compensates for the lack of longing they feel from their partner and helps to boost their self esteem. While women with a healthy self esteem are more apt to remain happy in a relationship, those that lack self esteem are often driven to cheat on their partners.

Loneliness, Revenge, Boredom and Self-esteem…what does it all comes down to? Basically women will feel unhappy when what she has is no longer enough for her (this is what she thinks but isn’t sure of!) So, in her screwed up and complicated mind they somehow can come up with reasons to cheating. I was happy and yet I did cheat. Now, it doesn’t make any sense as all my relationships in the past did not work…they all self destruct because of my own actions. You see ladies, when you start to feel insecure that is when you start doing stupid things that at the end of the day destroys your relationship which in the beginning was perfect! So, what should be done is, makesure that when you start a relationship you should give as much as you’d want to receive. An equal share is what is best. The fire of love should be kept alive no matter how old the relationship is…